Due to the fucking absurd amount of spam I'm getting from LiveJournal, I have changed the setting in this journal to allow comments only from Registered Users.

If you don't have an LJ account and would like to contact me, please feel free to email.

Thanks.

(I guess it's more fun for the management of LiveJournal to spend time creating "Games" and other ridiculous things, than actually handling their business.)

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Hi all:

So, I'm outta here. I'm closing up this journal and the matching one at Dreamwidth.

I can be reached via PM to perseph2hades and, of course, always at my writing comm, re_perseph.

I've changed my profile page to reflect that.

Nothing specific has happened, but honestly...just probably should have stayed gone after closing up my old journal. I've got nothing of a fannish nature to say that I can post in this journal, so no point in keeping it.

The posts already here will remain public but I'm closing up shop on "2_perseph" as a username, and I won't be using it to make comments or posts anywhere.

If, however, you occasionally see a "perseph" from Dreamwidth dropping you a comment via OpenID, well, das me.


Anyway, that's it. I wish you all well and still lots of fun in whatever your interests and pursuits. And thankfully, I always know where to find you.

Take care.

tags: gone

Dear Fandom:

About LiveJournal acting like an asshole (again).

Sweetie,

Know when to walk away.

I know how he made you feel. Remember I was there when you two started going out. You were the It Couple, the pair that left everyone else in the last century.

You looked so good together you two used to glow just getting up in the morning.

You introduced him to all your friends and they came running to all your parties and everyone was just so happy for you.

But, for some time now, we all know things haven’t been right.

He’s gotten big-headed by all the attention you two being a couple got him, and he started to believe that he could do better than being with you.

He started doing things to make you cry, after which he looks around innocently and pretends to not know why you’re so upset. He’s insulting to your friends and sometimes slams the door in their faces when they come to visit.

He brings other women into your home and then tells you you’re overreacting when you come home and find him entertaining them. Aren’t you all in the same social network anyway? What’s the big deal?

But the really awful thing is that he’s such a prick that, even knowing he wants out, he doesn’t want to be the one to initiate the divorce. That would make him look like a bad person and burn the bridges and connections he’s made through some of your more influential friends.

But I think he’s made it pretty clear how he feels about you.

So sweetie, as your friend I’m going to be the one to say the hard things.

You need to walk away.

It might be difficult at first—finding a new place, picking up a new set of furniture, orienting yourself to a whole new neighborhood…maybe even having to find a new set of friends if some of your friends decide to chose sides after the breakup.

But what you’ll find is that you have friends who’ll support you from the moment you walk away to the moment you can get back on your feet. You might even be surprised to find out that they’ve been waiting for you to take this step for years and already have things set up to make life in your new place easier.

I think you should also know that it was never him that made you shine. You were the one who brought the magic to the relationship but for some time now he’s made it seem as if without him you would shrivel up and die.

You made this man great—and he was an amazing guy at one time. But for some reason he’s convinced himself you’re nothing but an eyesore in his gorgeous waterfront condo, that were it not for you he would be a superstar. And you’ve let yourself believe that, too.

No breakup is ever easy. There might be dark days at first, but eventually you will be healthier, happier, maybe even more vibrant than you were when you were with him. You will find that glow again.

Anyway, that’s everything I wanted to say. You have my number, call me if want to talk.

So much love.

Your friend,
Persephone.

AN OPEN LETTER TO GATORGRRRL

[In all the years that I've been on LJ and now on DW, I've never posted about things going on in other journals. I've never even left comments to original posts. But since comments are frozen on the original post, and I feel I cannot let this one pass without comment, I'm making a post here. So here goes.]

I'm a Nigerian woman, I read the first half of your novella, here's what I have to say.

Your story pretty much nails all the major the tenets of classic racist ideals.

Bearing in mind that this is not an academic paper on the subject, your story nevertheless serves as a perfect tool for demonstrating what people claim to not understand when someone gets accused of "being racist."

Whether you intended the story as racist or not is, I'm afraid, your bad; I'm still going to use it. So if you or any one you know is baffled and wondering what's the big deal, point them in this direction.

This is in reference, of course, to your fic -- a novella, actually -- entitled Caught Between the Earth and Sky, written by you, gatorgrrrl, for the Supernatural Big Bang. It's a Jensen Ackles/Jared Padelecki AU slash story set in the aftermath of the Haitian earthquake. Jensen plays a doctor and Jared a photojournalist.

And yes, I am aware that you wrote an "apology" for choosing that backdrop, but we'll get to that later.

racism. what is it?
Racefail, racism, racial stereotypes. We've heard the words so much that they're now, in the words of Louis MacNiece, almost a cypher, like a Latin word that many languages have made their own, till it is worn and blunt and easy to construe, and often spoken but no longer heard.

Today, however, you're going to hear it, and perhaps understand it.

So what is racism? According to my dictionary (paraphrasing), it's the belief that members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, esp. so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race.

From your fic: Her wide eyes fixed on Jensen once again, scanning his face as if searching for a reason not to trust him. As if his white skin and American accent weren’t reasons enough.

Okay. So let's get right to it.

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Edit: "Getting it" in Writing Non-white Characters. A couple of commenters brought up this point and I thought this would be a good time to address it as well.

Crossed from dreamwidth | remarks - Remark

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Hi all:

I'm going to start posting on Dreamwidth (DW) and crossposting to this LJ.

Everyone will still be able to comment here.

But if you'd like to be able to comment to your friends' posts over there without any hassles (since some posts being crossed to LJ have comments disabled), the easiest way is to get an OpenID.

E.g. inputing "2_perseph.livejournal.com" (you'd replace my username with yours) will get me an OpenID, and allow me to comment on all the DW posts I see cropping up all over my flist, whether the post is locked or unlocked, without me having to leave LJ.

You're all already automatically friended there, so no need for re-friending.

That's all. Thanks for your patience and understanding. :)

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